Jay Shetty - Lewis Howes

1)     Lewis Howes shares his personal journey of healing from childhood trauma and the patterns he noticed in his relationships. He talks about how he went through intensive coaching and therapy to figure out what was holding him back and causing him pain. Lewis realized that his challenge was with intimacy, trusting himself and being 100% authentic in relationships. He had to heal a lot of emotional wounds from childhood that put him in the programming of feeling trapped and like he had to abandon himself for someone to love him. This wound caused a lot of pain and exhaustion, resulting in him always performing, playing a role, and abandoning himself. However, this journey of healing led to his ability to be creative and resulted in a book that removes blocks for people to find their greatness in their own lives.

2)      Lewis talks about his relationship with money and how he had to rewire his mindset around it. Growing up with a family who believed that having a lot of money was only reserved for shady people, Lewis had to unblock the fear he had towards money to reach financial abundance. When Lewis was four months away from being broke, he couldn't create content that he cared about because he didn't have the financial resources to support it. However, the moment that he realized he could give over six figures to a charity he loves was the moment he knew he could trust himself that if he had more, he would give more. As for rewiring his mindset, he says the process of unblocking the fear took time, practice, and consistency, and it's something that he's still practicing today.

3)      Lewis shares his personal experience of investing in therapy and healing work to find a solution to the pain and feelings of being stuck in his life. He talks about the importance of investing in finding a solution and committing to intentions, being vulnerable and authentic. He shares the moment where he felt free and accepted for who he was, leading him to realize that he was trying to buy peace rather than owning it. He emphasizes the importance of stepping into fear, accepting potential outcomes, and integrating the lessons learned to keep expanding and healing. Additionally, he distinguishes motivation as something for people that don't have a meaningful mission, while discipline is for people with a clear identity and meaningful mission.

4)      Howes talks about his prior focus on achieving success for himself and how it wasn't until he turned 30 that he realized that success was selfish and greatness was about service. He explains that he had to completely shift his identity from the mentality of competition to that of collaboration, shifting his focus from "me" to"we". He also goes on to discuss how discipline is more important than motivation when working towards a meaningful mission that goes beyond theself. Finally, Howes stresses the importance of having emotional healing and inner peace as keys to true success in life.

5)      Howes advises people to find their passion, power, and problem to solve, which he refers to as the three P's, in order to find their sweet spot of what they could be doing. He suggests that people should explore what excites them, what interests them, and what they would love to do if money was not an object. In addition, he tells people to look for their invisible assets, the intangible skills that they have acquired over their life, and use them to their advantage. Lastly, Howes advises people to confront their biggest fears by making a list of them and finding mentors and resources to help overcome them, just as he did with his fear of public speaking.

6)     Lewis Howes and Jay Shetty discuss the three p's that are necessary to achieve success - passion, power, and problem-solving. Howes emphasized the significance of overcoming fears to transform them into superpowers that help solve problems. He also mentioned that finding a meaningful mission for a season of life is crucial and that taking breaks to reflect on the work done is necessary. Moreover, Howes said discipline is essential to convert a passion into a success story because it takes persistence and practice to succeed.

7)      Lewis and Jay discuss the concept of feeling ready when launching a new project, such as a podcast, book, or business idea. They challenge the idea of faking it till you make it and encourage individuals to "face it until you embrace it," meaning to face their fears until they embody and overcome them. Lewis shares his personal experience of not feeling like the right messenger to share his book until he faced the fear of being inauthentic by doing therapy, coaching, and emotional revealing exercises until he felt freedom internally. Jay emphasizes that individuals cannot out analyze fear and must experience it internally to overcome it.

8)     Lewis Howes discusses three main fears in his book, "The Full Fizz," that hold people back from trying: failure, success, and judgment. For Howes, failure was not an issue, as being an athlete taught him that failure was a part of success because it provided a means to improve. However, many people are afraid of failure, and the fear of success is more common than some might anticipate. Success, Howes argues,won't come if one is scared of it.

9)      Lewis discuss the weight that comes with success and the associated pressures that can result in depression, mental health challenges, and distancing from relationships. They also talk about identifying fears that hold one back and accepting oneself to lead to fulfillment and meaningful missions. They emphasize the importance of a meaningful mission as the bedrock to overcome the fear of success and withstand the changing external factors. Such changes can affect the level of support or interest received, but those with genuine missions persevere beyond these challenges.

10)   Lewis discusses about fame or followers, but about having a meaningful mission focused on serving others. According to Lewis and Jay, while it's important to want things to go well in life, having a greater purpose as the bedrock for success is more sustainable energetically. While the idea of having a meaningful mission can feel heavy to some people, it's important to understand that each individual has their own season of life, and one should start by focusing on achieving a baseline and overcoming their fears. Even small acts of service, such as bringing joy and fun to people can be just as impactful as bigger acts of service, such as changing the world or curing cancer.

11)  Lewis Howes discusses the importance of personal growth and transformation in changing the world. He emphasizes that changing the world involves changing both the world around you and the world within you. Jay Shetty points out Lewis's practice of passing the ball even when he has opportunities to shine and how Lewis enlists support to improve constantly. Lewis shares his approach of finding a coach, going to a class, or doing acourse, and committing to them by paying in advance. He suggests that committing financially helps a person to stay on top of their growth and transformation.

12)  Lewis Howes discusses the importance of investing in personal growth and finding a trustworthy mentor. He shares that he asks people he respects for referrals, checks testimonials and does an initial introsession before committing to long-term coaching. He also speaks about how he has let go of his competitive ego and learned the concept of win-win, which inspired him to start his show to shine the light on others. He also emphasizes the importance of being genuinely interested and curious in others, as it makes them feel interesting and valued.

13)   Jay and Lewis discuss the importance of being genuine in your interactions with others, particularly when it comes to forging meaningful relationships. They talk about how using people for clout or fame without any real connection comes across as cheap and ultimately blocks you from having real relationships. Lewis Howes also shares a new coaching rule he's implemented, where every fee for his time goes to a charity of the client's choice, with the goal of creating a heart space and avoiding letting money get in the way of forging these relationships. Looking ahead, Lewis is excited to go more internal in the next half of the year, taking more time for rest, study, creativity, and research to ultimately continue to grow in the long-term.

14)   Lewis and Jay discuss the importance of going deep in order to move forward. Lewis shares that, after going through a lot of personal development, he feels the need to go deeper, which will enable him tomove forward once again. Jay then asks Lewis what lesson he thinks he'll learn at the end of the year, assuming he could fast forward his life. Lewis responds that he believes the lesson will be to live in the season that he has reached, recognizing that different energy is required to move forward. Further, he feels that letting go of things that he does not love will be very important moving forward. They both agree that it's essential to focus on the person you become, even if your dreams don't come true as life can still be a dream come true.

15)  Lewis Howes opens up about the things he learned and accomplished throughout his career, particularly as an athlete. He talks about the goals he set but never achieved and how he learned to find meaning, memory, and magic in those experiences.

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