Jay Shetty - Paris Hilton

1) Paris Hilton discusses regrets in life and recognizing toxic relationships. She explains that while she doesn't have any major regrets since everything she's done has shaped her into the strong woman she is today, she does wish she never let certain people with bad intentions into her life. Paris also talks about how fame and money can change people, making them act superior and treat others poorly. She highlights the importance of staying grounded and not letting these things affect one's values and character. Furthermore, Paris touches upon her struggle with self-esteem, a big topic in today's world, especially on social media. She admits to pretending at times to hide her insecurities and discusses the trauma she experienced as a teenager that hindered her trust in others.

2) Paris talks about the abuse she experienced at troubled teen schools and how it affected her self-esteem. She credits her documentary in 2019 and her marriage with giving her the strength to open up about her experiences and turn her pain into a purpose of helping others. Jay brings up some of the events in her book, including her experience with a manipulative and grooming teacher in eighth grade, and how it was uncomfortable for her to hold onto such memories. Hilton then talks about how her family didn't like to talk about things, and how she didn't discuss the incident with her family until recently. She hopes that by opening up about her experiences, others will be encouraged to talk about their own suffering in silence.

3) Paris talks about how difficult it was for her to open up to her family about the abuse she endured throughout her childhood, which she recounts in her book. Paris says her mom and sister were in shock when they read her book, and they wished she had come to them earlier. Shame and embarrassment were constant themes in her book, and Paris emphasizes that victims should not feel ashamed or embarrassed for what happened to them. Instead, the shame should be on the person who hurt them. Paris also discusses how important it is for parents to keep the communication lines open with their children, as it can be challenging for kids to talk to their parents, especially if they were raised in an environment where discussing difficult topics was not encouraged.

4) Paris discusses her relationship with her mother, who was quite distant when Paris was growing up. However, since her mother has read Paris's book and watched her documentary on abuse and trauma, their relationship has improved significantly. Paris speaks about her experience at the Provo Canyon School, where she was sent to "fix" herself. Despite being taught that she was broken and needed fixing, Paris never saw herself as a bad kid and knew that she didn't deserve to be there.

5) Paris talks about her traumatic experience of being sent to a growth boarding school where children are taken in the middle of the night by two men with handcuffs. She experienced severe nightmares for two decades, and it wasn't until her documentary that the nightmares finally went away. Paris attributes her success in business to her ADHD, which she considers her superpower, and she loves thinking in a different way and being an innovator. She also talks about how school didn't value things like art, philosophy, and economics, which are now a significant part of her life.

6) Hilton shares her experiences with sexual abuse and how she felt ashamed for something that was not her fault. She talks about how holding onto that shame and embarrassment made her feel isolated until she wrote about it in her book, which allowed others to reach out to her and share their own experiences. Hilton expresses the importance of talking about these experiences to create a sense of empathy and grace for everyone and encourages people to hold others accountable for their actions. She also touches on the vicious cycle of judging others and ourselves and how giving more grace could create a positive change. Despite the inevitable judgment she has received in the past, Hilton continues to share her story to help others realize that they are not alone.

7) Paris talks about the success of her memoir and the amount of love and support she has received from people who finally understand and respect her. She also talks about how her husband and little boy have helped her feel complete and safe, allowing her to leave behind her previous traumas. Paris also discusses her friendship with Britney Spears and the importance of women supporting each other, especially during times when women are pitted against each other in the media.

8) Paris talks about the importance of having friends with similar experiences to prevent feeling alone. She also mentions how the abuse she suffered in her teenage years prepared her for her career in Hollywood, allowing her to build a tough skin. She acknowledges how the commitment to fight against abusive schools becomes one's full-time job, and it can quickly become challenging due to opposition.

9) Paris explains the importance of having a safe space where people feel supported and can be open about their struggles without fear of judgment. She then talks about how trust and loyalty are priceless to her and shares how she used to test her friends with fake rumors in the past. She also discusses how the media's portrayal of her as a sex symbol was not true, and how it affected her fear of letting people in. Later on, Jay asks Hilton how she trusts another man after experiencing abuse and exploitation, to which she shares that finding someone you can trust takes time and that she recognizes how important trust is in a relationship.

10) Paris talks about how she found real love with Carter Reum, a Midwest boy from a town of 800 people. She mentions that he's kind, caring, and has strong family values, which is so different from anyone she has ever met before. Paris feels that they were meant to meet, and the timing was perfect as the 2020 lockdown allowed her to spend time with him without any distraction. She also shares how she felt comfortable opening up to him about her traumatic experiences because he was the first person she showed her documentary to, and he listened and asked her questions that made her feel understood and cared for.

11) Paris discusses the privacy she wanted for her pregnancy and how it was a personal and special moment for herself rather than a public broadcast. She explains how she wanted to avoid unnecessary comments and opinions from the online trolls. Paris believes that self-love is getting to know oneself and accepting all the parts, and only then one can truly love oneself. She talks about how being a mother changes her perspective and how she hopes to be a good mother and shower her child with unconditional love. Paris cites her complex relationship with her own family and how she wishes to be different and only spread love and positivity, unlike her experience.

12) Paris Hilton discusses her process for coping with abuse and toxic fame. In the midst of her depression, she began to create a "future world, future self, and future life without boundaries" as away to envision a better future. She states that it was hard to imagine, but she believed in manifestation and wanted to turn her painful experiences into something positive. Paris said that she always envisioned having one perfume, and now she exceeds 30, emphasizing the role of manifestation in her journey. Paris emphasizes that she still is far away from the ideal life that she crafted, but it's better than anything she thought possible. She also addresses the leaking of the sex tape and how it was a painful experience of being judged and criticized.

13) Paris shares how her ex-boyfriend taking advantage of her changed the way people saw her and made her feel like she had lost control of her own narrative. She explains how it took a while for her to feel brave enough to leave her house and how doing Saturday Night Live with Jimmy Fallon helped her take control of her narrative, as she felt empowered to share her story in a way that was funny and light-hearted. Hilton and Jay Shetty also discuss the importance of not judging people based on their appearance and how we all have hidden truths and nuances that people don't always see. In the Final Five section, Hilton shares that her current purpose is to make the world a safer place for children.

14) Paris talks about never receiving an apology for the abuse and toxicity she experienced while growing up. She mentions that what's important is for abusers to acknowledge their actions and learn from them to prevent causing pain in the future. Jay Shetty praises her for accepting apologies she never received and asks Paris about the one law she would create in the world. Paris answers that she would want everyone to do one kind thing every day, making the world a better place. Finally, Jay gives Paris a chance to share anything on her mind that he hasn't asked about, but Hilton says she can't think of anything at the moment.